Monthly Archives: November 2012

All or Nothing? Finding Balance with Dialectical Thinking

What I usually hear at this point is… “whaaat”?

Yes, dialectic is not a word we commonly use. It comes from ancient Greece and was made popular by Plato and Socrates.  Basically, a dialectic is a dialogue between two different points of view.  It differs from a debate, where there is a ‘right or wrong’.  A dialectical approach holds both points of view at the same time, evaluating both sides and coming to an understanding that is somewhere in the middle or a ‘shade of grey’. Continue reading

Eyes: Windows to the Soul and….Key in Unlocking Negative Emotions

ImageHow many of you – just for the heck of it – randomly dart your eyes around, back and forth, up and down or diagonally?  Most of us don’t unless we’re dreaming and having REM sleep.  Research has found that this rapid eye movement, that occurs in our sleep, plays a significant role in processing and storing information.  It’s like we have a built-in computer processor that runs a program every night to clear out unnecessary files and store what is needed.  Though human beings are more complex than computers, our brain operates as a central processing unit and our organs are attached through nerves, just as computer components are attached by wires.  If you try to load too many files on your computer, or the wires are worn down, the computer can slow down, freeze up, or just shut down completely.   Continue reading

A Prelude to the Holiday Season: 5 Tips to Minimize the Stress

ImageWell, here we go already!  I think practicing gratitude on a regular basis is good for your mental health and, with Thanksgiving here this week, now is a good time to double up (chanting to yourself over and over what you’re grateful for).  Depending on your circumstances, the holidays can trigger a variety of emotions.  Memories from years past, stress about “to-do” lists, concerns about encountering family members you may prefer to avoid, etc. etc.  Here are a few tips to begin managing the stress that may come with the season:

1. Don’t be trapped by tradition.  If you find yourself dreading the holiday season, you may want to consider doing something different this year for your own well-being.  Reclaiming the peace and joy –  that the holidays are meant to bring –  is worth the discomfort of change.  Continue reading

Are you Solar Powered or Battery Operated? Understanding Introversion and Extraversion


As a “mind/body” therapist, I’m interested in helping you understand the physical aspects of your mental health.  In the two previous articles, I described sensitivity in regard to your physical nervous system.  In this article, I will be describing the physical aspects of how you get energized.

The terms ‘introverted’ and ‘extraverted’ are most commonly used to describe  a person either being socially outgoing or withdrawn.  Usually, extraverts are viewed more positively as “social butterflies” while introverts are seen as the more awkward “wall flowers” or “book worms”.  Some people can even be “ambiverts”, meaning they can go either way, just as ambidextrous refers to being right and left-handed. Continue reading